1 A delicate subject..... Tue Apr 06, 2010 5:57 am
MAHARANI
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Basically I have a friend who has a 13 year old daughter. For some reason this young lady does not have a big take on personal hygiene and is not a big fan of showers, baths or any kinda of cleanliness. And my poor friend has had to badger this girl every day to go have a shower for about a year now.
Now up until recently, it was annoying but not really a major issue for my friend, but now with the onset of puberty and other things that go with it, my friend is really concerned about the situation. She has tried sitting her daughter down and really talking to her. Letting her know that people and friends may start talking about her and laughing and calling her names behind her back She has said it to her in a nice caring way, without trying to put her daughter down. In general, the response she gets is a blank one and there really does not seem to be any concern coming from her daughter. The good thing at the moment, is that she is a very popular girl and has lots of friends and partakes in many extra curricular activities. But we don't know whether people have already started talking and eventually her wide circle of friends may diminish. I would hate for her to look back on this time, in the future and feel sad and embarrassed about the situation. Lord knows when we are young nothing seems to matter, but I know I would cringe if it was me.
This girl also has siblings, an older sister and a younger brother , and they regularly tell her she smells, but again with no real response or concern. They are all at the same school and are very close in age, so they are concerned that they will also be laughted at because of her actions, so it is not just her to worry about.
In her defense I have never personally smelt any bad odour from her but I don't see her every day. But when I heard that she had recently been on a school trip for nearly a week and had only changed her knickers twice, I knew something had to be done.
I did think that maybe as I have been a part of her live for as long as she has lived, that maybe I could talk to her about it, but I don't want her to think that her Mum has been speaking about her with others and then this causes a strain in their relationship,
So my question is what do you think her Mum could do to encourage her to be more concerned about personal hygiene. I am hoping it is a phase but it has been a year now!